I hate to see you leave, Gerry. I really do. But we all have to do what we have to do. My position all along has been made clear. I don't force anyone to visit here, register here or participate here and I do not hold anyone here against their will.
I hope you'll be comfortable with stopping back by, at some point in the future.
The situation that brewed up in the other thread was ugly. I wish it hadn't happened, but the fact remains it did happen. I can't put toothpaste back in the tube any more than the next guy and it seems my ex snatched up the magic wand as she was hopping on her broom to fly out of here. So there is no un-doing what has been done. All I can do is make my position clear to the individual that stepped out of line. I feel I did just that. Maybe that wasn't a tough enough stance for some people. If not, so be it. But hanging the threat of leaving the forum over my head is akin to being held hostage myself. And I'm not playing that game, no way, no how.
Another position I've always made clear is the fact I am not going to set myself up for failure by trying to make everyone happy, all of the time. It's a recipe for disaster.
In the nearly 30 years I've been online, I've haunted, moderated, owned, built, crashed, rebuilt and admin'ed more foums that most people will ever join. I learned, very early on, the InterWebz are somewhat predictable. No matter what you try to accomplish on a site, there is one constant. People come and people go. Some people come back again, whilst some are gone forever. It happens. If an admin gets derailed by it, the community runs the risk of collapsing. If the admin keeps plugging, the community continues to move forward.
To make everything crystal-clear, if everyone left today and never returned, I would shut the site down tomorrow and join you. The site exists by the skin of its teeth. Some months it pays for itself and some months it doesn't. I am most certainly not getting rich by operating it. I imagine when it comes right down to it, I would miss this place a lot less than anyone else. There are days when it is little more than a burr under my saddle. And those are the good days.
For those who feel it's best to leave, I wish you blue skies, smooth roads and safe driving. I hope our paths will cross again.
For those who choose to remain, we're going to keep plugging. For as long as it makes any good sense, that is.