Your not, this is good discussion with differing opinions.
Prior to leaded gas going away, cylinder heads were as cast, machined cast iron. When the leaded gas was mandated to be discontinued and only unleaded would be available, the auto makers started doing an induction hardening process (a heat treat process) to the exhaust valve seat ONLY. This induction hardening only penetrated a very shallow depth into the metal and after one, maybe two, valve jobs, this hardening was removed by the machine shop and the valve seat was back to the normal cast iron condition.
The concern was that there would be valve seat recession after many miles/years of driving without the leaded gas to protect the valve seat.
Was this a scare tactic by the auto makers? No, I don't think so. I'm sure it was a GENUINE concern. And for the older engines without hardened valve seats, there were two fixes. Use a lead additive after the leaded gas went away, or, have hardened ex seats installed in the heads. This presented two issues. The seats had to be cut deep enough to accomodate the hard seats which resulted in a REAL potential for cutting into the water jacket-------------and the head then became a good boat anchor. Or, there was a possibility that in time (and it has happened) the inserted valve seat could come loose. No need to paint that picture!
It's been about 30yrs since leaded gas went away. And for the older engines which have been running on unleaded gas since then, they don't seem to have the EXPECTED valve seat and valve guide wear that was emphasized.
So, bottom line, for the normally driven passenger cars and light trucks, there seems to be enough experience to demonstrate that the installation of hardened exhaust seats is just not necessary but expensive. Yes, back many years ago I did have hard seats installed in some of my heads, and now I regret doing so. The engines that I've built in the last 10-12 yrs DO NOT have hard seats and they are doing just great with no apparent adverse effects from unleaded gas.
Again my .02